August 07, 2018

                                                             Follow your gut.

Tip of the day: Follow your gut. That feeling we get in our belly...that is there by design...masterful design. It is there to guide us, warn us and protect us. When we ignore it and do not listen to it...most times we end up in situations we regret or cause us stress and worry. Always listen to it and let it do what its intended to do. I know many of you are afraid to turn away a client...especially if they are right there at your studio and expecting a pair of eyebrows from you! Don't be. We have the right to refuse service to whomever we please at any time we please. Of course we want to give our service to everyone...and 99% of the time we will. But from time to time in will walk that client that you know is going to be a problem. You know because your gut told you so. Many of you ignore it...some of you like me pay very close attention to it and follow it. The best advice I could ever give any fellow to please follow your gut. It will protect you and save you from stress, worry, and even potentially threatening situations. Many of these clients that give us that gut feeling are people that would have threatened you with bad reviews, wanted their money back or just found someway to harass you. I know because it has happened to me more than once. Follow your gut and decline to work on this type of person. If they are right there in your studio and you are all set up to go and that gut feeling is kicking you in the belly just stop for a second...tell your client you got to go tinkle....breathe...gather your thoughts...go back in...kindly and professionally but with conviction in your tone...tell them simply..."Im sorry but this is not going to work out as I dont feel I am the right artist for you". That's is. If they ask why you just repeat yourself. If they ask again you just repeat yourself keeping a kind and professional tone. Why do we just repeat this statement? Well because there will be no answer that is satisfying to them and they will keep the correspondence going and going and going and you will end up in a big huge conversation that could go wrong. All you want and need is to inform them that you are not the right artist for them and for them to leave. They will be shocked and surprised you are telling them this...thats okay. They may get rude with you..thats okay. You will be nervous and feel uncomfortable..thats okay. Ultimately you made the safest and healthiest decision for you...for YOU and you did it in a kind and professional manner. Now...if they go on and write a bad review about you because you did will get it removed easily. Yelp and Google do not allow bad reviews to remain UNLESS you actually did the did not do the service. I have had this exact situation about 4 times now in the last three years and got all 4 bad reviews successfully removed. So you may get a little angry feedback in the may get a bad review that you can fight and win....but you just saved yourself who knows how many weeks or months of stress, worry, torment and or harassment. I completely understand some of you are new, just starting out and you need that income...I totally get it but what it could end up costing you stress, worry and fear isnt worth a million bucks. Some people are scary, have anger issues and will want to hurt you somehow...they can't...only if you give them that power. I found my voice and my courage quite a few years ago after going through many situations like these. I learned alot and that allowed me to set boundaries I dont allow anyone to cross and it was super liberating. I hope my little post here gives you all the courage to find your voice, take care of yourself, set boundaries and....listen to your will never let you down.